Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good
we
oft might win, by fearing to attempt. "Shakespeare
THOUGHT'S most deadly instrument for marring human lives is fear. Fear
demoralizes
character, destroys ambition, induces or causes disease, paralyzes
happiness in self and others, and prevents achievement. It has not one
redeeming quality. It is all evil. Physiologists now well know that it
impoverishes the blood by demoralizing Assimilation and cutting off nutrition.
It lowers mental and physical vitality, deadens
Every element of success. It is fatal to the happiness of youth, and
is the most terrible
accompaniment of old age. Buoyancy flees before its terrifying glance,
and cheerfulness
cannot
dwell in the same house with it.
“The most extensive of all the morbid mental conditions which reflect
themselves so disastrously on the human system is the state of fear," says
Dr. William H. Holcomb. " It has many degrees or gradations, from the
state of extreme alarm, fright, or terror, down to the slightest shade of
apprehension of impending evil. But all along the line it is the same
thing" A paralyzing impression upon the centres of life which can produce,
through the agency of the nervous system, a vast variety of morbid symptoms in
every tissue of the body."" Fear is like carbonic acid gas pumped
into one's atmosphere," says Horace Fletcher." It causes mental,
moral, and spiritual asphyxiation ,and sometimes death" to energy, death to tissue, and death to all
growth."Yet from our birth we live in the presence and under the dominion
of this demon, fear. The child is cautioned a thousand times a year to look out
for this, and to look out for that ;it may get poisoned, it may get bitten, it
may get killed ; something terrible may happen to it if it does not do so and
so. Men and women cannot bear the sight of some harmless animal or insect
because, as children, they were told it would hurt them. One of the crudest things
imaginable is to impress into a child's plastic mind the terrible image of
fear, which, like the letters cut upon a sapling, grows wider and deeper with
age. The baleful shadows of such blasting and blighting pictures will hang over
the whole life and shutout the bright sun of joy and happiness. An Australian
writer saves :" One of the worst misfortunes which can possibly happen to a
growing child is to have a mother who is perpetually tormented by nervous
fears. If ^ mother gives way to fears" ^morbid, minute, and all-prevailing
" ^she will inevitably make the environment of her children one of
increasing dread and timidity. The background of fear is the habit or instinct
of anticipating the worst. The mother who never makes a move, or
allows her children to
make a move, without conjuring up a myriad of malign possibilities, im
bitters the cup of life with a slow-acting poison" I know that thousands
of boys and girls are to-day tremulous, weak, passive, unalert on the physical
side, simply because they were taught in the knicker bocker stage, or earlier,
to see the potency of danger in all they did or tried to do. A mother assumes a
terrible responsibility when from silly fears of possible
injury she forbids a child such physical abandon will promote courage,
endurance, self reliance, and self-control."
" For more than twenty years I have made a study of criminal
psychology and of infantile psychology," says Dr. Lino Ferriani."
Thousands of times I have been compelled to recognize the sad fact that at
least eighty eight per cent, of morbidly timid children could have been cured and saved in time by means of
common-sense principles of physical and physiological hygiene, in which the main
factor is suggestion inspired by wholesome courage."Not content with
instilling fear of possibly real things, many mothers and most nurses invent
all sorts of bugbears and bogies to frighten poor babies into obedience. They
even attempt to induce sleep by telling children," If you don't go right
to sleep, a great big bear will come and eat you up ! *' How much sleep would a
grown man get in a situation where this was a real possibility? Fear of the dark
would seldom exist if parents carefully showed children that nothing is
different in the dark from what it is in the light. Instead of so doing, they
take pains to people the mysterious dark with every sort of ogre and monsters that
human imagination has been able to conjure up. Some one has well expressed
inverse this cruel but too common sin against healthy-minded childhood Go into
almost any gathering, no matter how gay and happy the crowds seem to be, you
will find, if you question anyone of even the gayest, that the canker-worm of
fear gnaws at the heart in some form. The fear of accident, of sickness, of
poverty, of death, of some terrible misfortune, still lingers during the
greatest apparent gayety. Thousands
of people thus pass their lives under the shadow of fear, haunted by
the dread of some vague, impending evil. Many men and women narrow their lives
by worrying over what may happen to morrow-The family cannot afford to have any
little, legitimate pleasure, to travel, or to take the leading magazines or
papers. They cannot afford much-needed vacations. They must economize on
clothes, on food even, and on every form of culture or recreation costing
money, simply because times may be hard next year.
“There may be a financial panic," urges the pessimist. “Some of
the children may be sick, the times may be bad, our crops may fail, some
business venture may not caused. We can't tell what might happen, but we must
prepare for the worst" The lives of hundreds of families are mutilated,
sometimes utterly ruined, by this bugbear of misfortune just ahead.
One of the worst features of this parsimonious anxious, Un trustful
way of living is that
it stunts the development of young lives, and throws its dark shadow
over the future as
well as the present. A girl or boy, for instance, should go to college
this year. Time flies
quickly, and almost before they realize it they will be too old to go.
But the father and
mother assures themselves that they cannot afford any extra expense
this year; the children must wait a little longer; and every year it is the
same: ''They must wait a little
longer."How many men and women are handicapped in their
life-work, robbed of their possibilities, because lacking an education which
parents, in anticipation of reverses that never came, postponed until too late?
No one should discourage proper economy
and frugality, but this gloomy fear that" something may
happen," this postponing enjoyment, education, culture, travel, books,
innocent pleasures of every kind, until the
sensibilities become hardened, until the aesthetic facilities are
dead, is a disease of narrow, untruthful souls, which every sane person should combat.
Think of the millions of human creatures that God has made and placed on this
glad earth, endowed with every faculty possible to enable them to enjoy life,
wasting precious years in worrying and fretting lest something may happen.
How pitiful are the anxious, wrinkled faces, gray hairs, the unhappy expressions of
those who worry about possible misfortunes! Not one wrinkle in a
thousand, not one gray hair in a million, has been produced by actual ills. The
things which turn hair gray and plough fair faces with cruel furrows, which rob
the step of elasticity, and take the buoyancy from life are bridges that never
were crossed, misfortunes that never came. The sorrows and trials which
actually come to us are, except in rare instances, trifling, compared with the
things about which we worry, but which never come to pass. What a waste of
energy and human life is involved in this pernicious habit of anticipating evil
! Think of the amount of work you could have accomplished by the mental and
physical
force you have expended in fearing what might happen " but which
did not. Think of the wasted hours in which you planned what you would do if
misfortune should come.
If we could only rid ourselves of imaginary troubles, our lives would
be infinitely happier
and healthier. Thus one of the greatest tasks in character-building is
to eliminate, to uproot, to wipe out completely the baleful effects of fear in
all its varieties of manifestation. No one can lead a naturally healthy, sunny,
helpful, harmonious life while living in a fear environment. No one can hope to
be entirely happy and successful without the destruction, the eradication, of
the fear-germs. Were this done, the world would be gloriously changed for the
better. It is the duty of every individual to conquer this common enemy in his own
mind, and to do all he can to wrest other people, especially the young, from
the dominion of this phantom monster. Happily, thinkers
and investigators have proven that this may be done, and it is a
glorious prophecy that
coming generations will be taught to banish all fear, to march,
clear-eyed and confident,
toward the goal of perfect happiness.
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